UGHHHH… being a perfectionist really SUCKS! No mincing words, it just really, really sucks. I feel under pressure all of the time, but the only one putting pressure on me, is ME. It seems like such a simple thing, but it’s such a delicate interplay between my brain and the rest of the inner workings of the rest of this body. Trust me, the issues of this body are very well documented, but perfectionism can not really be catalogued like Multiple Sclerosis or Systemic Lupus.
An even bigger issue is that I am not the only perfectionist in my household, the Contractor is a perfectionist as well. Merriam-Webster defines perfectionism as,
Medical Definition of perfectionism: a disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable; especially : the setting of unrealistically demanding goals accompanied by a disposition to regard failure to achieve them as unacceptable and a sign of personal worthlessness
The Contractor and I definitely create unattainable, demanding goals. We are trying to work at getting better at this. I have set at least one attainable goal a day. It is extremely difficult. As an artist, if one of my projects does not come out 100% as I want it, I trash it. I have begun to stop this, 100% is not always attainable, nor is it a fair level to put myself to all the time.
Below is a great book that is helping me reach my goal to be less of a perfectionist… here’s to hoping!
In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, a leading expert on shame, authenticity, and belonging, shares ten guideposts on the power of Wholehearted living—a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness.
Do you have anything similar in your life to this? Any recommendations to overcome my perfectionism? I am ready to take on this challenge head on! I can’t wait to read any ideas from you guys!
That’s it for now
~ Kristen ~